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The Haftorah of this week's parsha also relates an incident of tremendous kindness to visitors. A woman prepared meals for the prophet Elisha (the primary disciple of Elijah). She and her husband noticed that Elisha would frequently pass through their town. They went so far in their generosity as to prepare for him his own private room, with a bed, table, chair, and lamp (II Kings 4:8-10) .
Thus, we see how important it is to show kindness to guests. Of course, it is a foregone conclusion that we should show kindness to members of our own household. In many respects, however, it is easier to be receptive to those who visit only once in a blue moon. The better dishes are put out, we dress a little nicer, conversation tends to be more sophisticated, and we mind our manners to a higher degree. Once our guests leave, however, we tend to "let our hair down" and revert back to routine behavior. One needs to ask himself the following questions: "I relate to my guest how happy I am to see him, but do I inquire of my spouse's well-being on a daily basis? I ask how my guest's child is doing in school, but do I ask my children what they are involved with?" In many ways, it is those who are closest to us that we neglect the most.
This family-guest dichotomy parallels that of the Shabbat-High Holidays phenomenon. For many of us, we step it up a notch for three days a year. We don our choicest garments, disclose our faulty conduct, and pray to Hashem to bless us with a good year. We go all out to greet Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur with heightened respect, but as is all too often the case, once we break the fast, we loosen our ties, kick off our shoes, and revert back to our usual ways. One Shabbat after another goes by without our even recognizing it. We must do something so that this "family member" doesn't get forgotten, to sanctify and elevate it from the rest of the week. Just like we should never neglect members of our own household, we should never neglect our own weekly holy day. Do we remember to tell our husband or wife, "I love you"? Do we remember to tell our precious Shabbat, "I love you"? It has been said that, "More than the Jews have kept Shabbat, Shabbat has kept the Jews." Isn't it time for that statement to change?